November 16th
2023
Kindness isn’t just a world; it’s a movement. Did you know that November 13th -19th is World Kindness Week? People from all across the globe will recognize its importance and encourage charitable efforts for others at a moment in our history when we all could use more positivity and altruism. At KohParenting, we’d like to take this opportunity to discuss how we can cultivate kindness in our own families and teach the value to our children. Let’s keep this culture of kindness going now and for future generations! Read on for all the details.
World Kindness Week is an international event every November to celebrate kindness and promote acts of compassion and generosity toward others.
Scientific evidence suggests that kindness serves an evolutionary purpose and benefits health. Humans are wired to care for each other and connect to survive. Kindness emits chemicals and neurotransmitters that promote physical, emotional, and mental well-being.
Kindness can be powerful in co-parenting because it inspires parenting partners to treat each other and their children respectfully. Treating each other kindly can heal lingering feelings from the separation or divorce and shift mindsets from negative to positive.
You can teach your children to be kind by modeling kindness toward themselves and others, building their empathy and understanding of different emotions and perspectives, and involving them in acts of kindness and charity.
World Kindness Day was established in 1998 as an international holiday to celebrate and promote kindness. The idea emerged from a conference in Tokyo in which representatives from all across the globe discussed the topic and pledged “to join together to build a kinder and more compassionate world” (Source). People typically honored the occasion by reflecting on the power of kindness and engaging in random good deeds. Over time, this annual one-day event gained momentum and was extended to a week. Every community continues to put its spin on it and conduct various fun-filled activities with the same essential mission to educate the public and encourage us to treat each other with empathy and generosity.
Kindness sounds nice; the dictionary defines the word as something positive (i.e., the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate) but doesn’t explain the “how” or the “why.” In truth, kindness is much more than pleasant “fluff;” it’s a scientific phenomenon with proven benefits to physical, mental, and emotional health.
According to an article from Psychology Today, Charles Darwin, infamous naturalist, geologist, and biologist, pointed out that kindness has evolutionary value for our species and has thus become written into our DNA to help us survive and thrive. Humans instinctively care for each other, very much so as adult caregivers but even as early as toddlerhood. Various research studies have found that kindness positively impacts health, whether you’re the one being kind or being treated kindly by others.
The “secret sauce” of kindness is chemical. Positive, intimate interactions with others release the hormone “oxytocin,” which makes us feel good and helps us to form social connections. Some studies also show that acts of kindness increase the neurotransmitters dopamine (which evokes euphoric feelings of accomplishment) and serotonin (which regulates mood).
In sum, so much evidence supports the value of kindness that it’s no wonder an entire week-long holiday was founded in its honor! But what does all this mean for co-parents? Read on to explore all that kindness can do for your co-parenting.
Co-parenting well requires lots of kindness. You and your parenting partner must put aside your differences to work together peacefully and respectfully. You’ll likely have times when you disagree, and in those moments,, you can call upon the kindness within your heart to empathize with each other’s perspectives and find common ground. Your children, meanwhile, will need your patience and compassion as they process the whole gamut of emotions in response to your separation/divorce and all the changes it brings to their lives.
Kindness can also serve as a healing salve for your family. At times, you may carry resentment or anger about the end of your romantic relationship, which is valid and normal. But releasing those feelings onto your ex, children, or other people won’t likely give you the closure you seek. On the other hand, being kind can shift your state of mind from frustration to forgiveness and make it easier for you to be the respectful co-parent your family needs. The effect can be reciprocal; your kindness can make your ex feel more forgiving and compassionate toward you and encourage them to treat you better moving forward.
A parent’s ultimate goal is to raise healthy children who find happiness by contributing positively to the world. Recognizing World Kindness Week is one step toward achieving this, but it can’t be the only one. Sustainable kindness is a lifestyle, not one particular event, and to reap its benefits, we need to practice it daily. Here are some suggestions for ways you can foster kindness in your family.
Amongst all the uglier aspects of life- divorce, illness, death, violence, war, prejudice, hate- we all come back to one beautiful thing: kindness. It’s the thread that unifies all of us, an unbreakable bond that can withstand any hardship. We hope this post has armed you with ample evidence and ideas for exercising the power of kindness. What do you do in your family to promote kindness? Let us know! Your acts of compassion toward yourself, your child, and others may be little pebbles in a stream, but they’ll create ripple effects that can flow into the future for generations to come.
Thanksgiving is right around the corner, and many consider it the beginning of the holiday season. This time of year brings both joy and challenges, and KohParenting will be here to help you through it all. Next week, we’ll be talking about how single-parent families can cope with the stress of the holidays. Don’t miss it!
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